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7 Types of Guys to Date Not Marry …

1. Mr. “Not Ready for a Serious Relationship Yet”

In my opinion, this is one of the most common types of men who will never marry you. He likes to date a lot and when things become too serious, he gets scared and simply leaves, telling you that he’s not ready for a serious relationship yet. Well, maybe he will never be. There’s no point in trying to change him or show him that you are perfect for him. You’ll only look desperate and you’ll waste all your energy chasing a man that tries to avoid commitment.

2. Mr. “Not over His Ex”

This is definitely the type of guy you should avoid if you’re looking for Mr. Right. This man is still hung up on his ex-girlfriend even if he won’t admit it. He always talks about her, about her hobbies, interests or even about the #things they did together. This man still needs some time to heal before starting to date again, so he’s definitely not ready to marry you.

3. Mr. “Too Focused on His Career”

This guy still tries to figure out what he wants to do in his career and he’s always focused on #everything related to his job. He never has enough time for the two of you and his work always comes first. Samantha Daniels, a well-known professional matchmaker and relationship expert, said that “Men need to be settled in their careers or at least know which direction they are headed on the career front before they can settle down.” I couldn’t agree more!

4. Mr. “Always Looking for a Bigger Better Deal”

With this man you’ll feel absolutely amazing, except that he will never be ready to commit to you. That’s because, sadly, he will always #look for someone he thinks might be better for him, even though what you two have is wonderful. He will always keep his options open, wondering if he will find a better version of you somewhere in this #world. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be with someone who will never think that you’re good enough for him.


5. Mr. “I Always Hang out with Kids Half My Age”

This is the man who is in his late 40s, who has an impressive career (usually he is an executive of some sort) and while all his childhood friends are married and settled down, he always hangs out with kids half his age. He’s always going clubbing and partying, looking to pick up younger girls. The thing is that he is also lying to himself because when a 20-year-old lady goes out on a date with him, it’s not because she finds him so interesting or attractive; it’s often because of his #money.

6. Mr. “I Haven’t Found the Right One”

This type of #man is usually over 50 and has never been married before because he always says he never found the right lady. Well, you should start to ask yourself some questions, because if he hasn’t found the perfect match among the hundreds of girls he has dated before, why would you be the right one to marry him? Try to be cautious and protect your feelings!


7. Mr. “I Only Care about My Kids”

This guy has won your love by showing what a great father he is and has really impressed you by how much he loves his children. You really admire him for all the sacrifices he makes in order to see his kids happy and you think that he might be the perfect #guy for you. Don’t get me wrong! There’s nothing wrong with a responsible father. But when this man focuses too much on his children and never has enough #time for you or your relationship, you should start asking yourself if he will ever find a place for you in his heart or in his life.

In my opinion, these were the most significant types of men who will never marry you, no matter what you do. I’m sure my list is incomplete though, so I’ll need you to give me a hand. What other types of #men would you add to this list? Do tell!

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15 Types of Women That Men do Not Want to Marry

1. Miss “Extremely Jealous”

If we’re talking about types of women that men do not want to marry, we must surely include this very popular type of lady. She is always very distrusting and suspicious and even though she might have been hurt in the past, this is not an excuse for behaving like this in all her relationships. So, that’s why, most of the time, guys will break up with her because after all “no one can go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else’s crimes.”

2. Miss “Bossy”

I must admit with shame that sometimes I am this type of woman, but in my defense, I must say that I often do it unconsciously and that I can’t simply help myself. At first, a man might think that this trait is kind of cute, that he likes a woman who is ambitious and knows what she wants, but after a while, he will realize that things are a bit different and he will “feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his second grade teacher.” So, if you recognize yourself in my description, try to do something about it and be more approachable.

3. Miss “Playing Games”

I know that sometimes, it may seem fun to play all sorts of fun games (well, fun for you), but in the long term this behavior will surely damage your relationship. Maybe at first, a man will be intrigued by a hard-to-get lady, but after a while he will want to be with someone who is a bit nicer and more stable. So, no matter how tempting it may seem, stop playing games with his heart! Act a #little bit more responsibly and think about his feelings too!

4. Miss “I Have Nothing else Going on”

This is definitely one of the types of women a man will not want to marry. Even though at first he might be flattered by all her attention and kindness, in the long term he will feel suffocated and all that attention will seem overwhelming. Men love a woman who knows what she wants, who makes plans that don’t necessarily involve him, who has a goal in her life and who doesn’t live only for him and for seeing him happy. So ladies, no matter how in love you might be, don’t forget about yourself or about your dreams!

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8 Reasons Straight Men Don’t Want To Get Married

It seems that fewer and fewer people in general are getting married these days, and even fewer men seem interested. Men no longer see marriage as being as important as they did even 15 years ago. “According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997–from 28 percent to 37%. For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent.” Why?

In the course of researching my new book, Men On Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – And Why It Matters, I talked with men all over America about why they’re avoiding marriage. It turns out that the problem isn’t that men are immature, or lazy. Instead, they’re responding rationally to the incentives in today’s society. Here are some of the answers I found.

1. You’ll lose respect. A couple of generations ago, a man wasn’t considered fully adult until he was married with kids. But today, fathers are figures of fun more than figures of respect: The schlubby guy with the flowered diaper bag at the mall, or one of the endless array of buffoonish TV dads in sitcoms and commercials. In today’s culture, father never knows best. It’s no better in the news media. As communications professor James Macnamara reports, “by volume, 69 percent of mass media reporting and commentary on men was unfavorable, compared with just 12 percent favorable and 19 percent neutral or balanced.”


2. You’ll lose out on sex. Married men have more sex than single men, on average – but much less than men who are cohabiting with their partners outside of marriage, especially as time goes on. Research even suggests that married women are more likely to gain weight than women who are cohabiting without marriage. A Men’s Health article mentioned one study that followed 2,737 people for six years and found that cohabiters said they were happier and more confident than married couples and singles.

3. You’ll lose friends. “Those wedding bells are breaking up that old gang of mine.” That’s an old song, but it’s true. When married, men’s ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it tends to affect men’s self-esteem more, perhaps because men tend to be less social in general.

4. You’ll lose space. We hear a lot about men retreating to their “man caves,” but why do they retreat? Because they’ve lost the battle for the rest of the house. The Art of Manliness blog mourns “The Decline of Male Space,” and notes that the development of suburban lifestyles, intended to bring the family together, resulted in the elimination of male spaces in the main part of the house, and the exile of men to attics, garages, basements – the least desirable part of the home. As a commenter to the post observes: “There was no sadder scene to a movie than in ‘Juno’ when married guy Jason Bateman realized that in his entire huge, house, he had only a large closet to keep all the stuff he loved in. That hit me like a punch in the face.”

5. You could lose your kids, and your money. And they may not even be your kids. Lots of men I spoke with were keenly aware of the dangers of divorce, and worried that if they were married and it went sour, the woman might take everything, including the kids. Other men were concerned that they might wind up paying child support for kids who aren’t even theirs – a very real possibility in many states. On my blog, I polled over 3200 men to ask how they would react to finding out that a child wasn’t theirs after all. 32 percent said they would feel “anger and fury at the mother,” 6 percent said they would feel “depression,” 18 percent said “anger and depression,” 2 percent said “none of the above,” 32 percent said “angry at the system that forced them to pay,” and only 2 percent “didn’t care.” One man commented that his ex-wife had taunted him with the knowledge that his 11-year old son wasn’t actually his: “I was angry at the mother…I severed all ties to the boy. Some may see this as a failing. I see it as self-preservation, and to those that ask the question of whether or not the courts will make a non-biological parent pay child support, pay attention: YES THEY WILL! They see you as nothing more than a source of cash for the child. It seems that a person in these situations should be able to sue the real father for child support.”


6. You’ll lose in court. Men often complain that the family court legal system is stacked against them, and in fact it seems to be. Women gain custody and child support the majority of the time, as pointed out in this ABC News article: “Despite the increases in men seeking and receiving alimony, advocates warn against linking the trend to equality in the courtroom. Family court judges still tend to favor women, said Ned Holstein, the founder of Fathers & Families, a group advocating family court reform. “‘Family court still gives custody overwhelmingly to mothers, child support overwhelmingly to mothers, and courts still give almony overwhelmingly to mothers and women,’ he said. ‘The family courts came into existence years ago in order to give things to mothers that mothers needed,” he said. ‘The times have changed and the courts have not.'”

7. You’ll lose your freedom. At least, if you’re charged with child support that you can’t pay, you can be put in jail – and if you can’t afford a lawyer, you don’t have the right to have one appointed because, according to the Supreme Court, it’s technically a civil matter, never mind the jail time. Fathers and Families found that it’s the men who are jailed rather than women: “A new report concludes that between 95% and 98.5% of all incarcerations in Massachusetts sentenced from the Massachusetts Probate and Family Courts from 2001 through 2011 have been men. Moreover, this percentage may be increasing, with an average of 94.5% from 2001 to 2008, and 96.2% from 2009 through 2011. It is likely that most of these incarcerations are for incomplete payment of child support. Further analysis suggests that women who fail to pay all of their child support are incarcerated only one-eighth as often as men with similar violations.”

8. Single life is better than ever. While the value of marriage to men has declined, the quality of single life has improved. Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued “stable family men,” and often subjected to social opprobrium. It was hard to have a love life that wasn’t aimed at marriage, and premarital sex was risky and frowned upon. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. Plus, video games, cable TV, and the Internet provide entertainment that didn’t used to be available. Is this good for society? Probably not, as falling birth rates and increasing single-motherhood demonstrate. But people respond to incentives. If you want more men to marry, it needs to be a more attractive proposition.

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12 Surprising Facts About Infidelity

Discover things you never knew about why men cheat that could save your marriag

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Can you spot a husband prone to infidelity? If he’s unhappy with his wife, he’ll cheat, right? Not necessarily. According to a Rutgers University study, 56% of men who have affairs claim to be happy in their marriages. They’re largely satisfied with all they have and aren’t looking for a way out, yet they still find themselves in bed with other women—and in hot water with their wives. Here, experts explain this phenomenon and dispel other popular cheating myths.

Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.
Men who cheat haven’t fallen out of love; they’ve become unsatisfied with the current state of it. “Cheating usually occurs in the phase of companionate love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together,” says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. While they’re fulfilled in some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. “We more often think of women complaining about a lack of romance, but men feel it, too,” says Dr. Brosh. “They frequently suffer in silence, believing they can’t get what they want from their spouses.” To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams—not just workdays and your son’s last soccer game.

Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.

Cheaters don’t generally pick up random women in bars. “My first husband cheated on me with a childhood friend,” says Diane* from New York City. “His family was close to her family, so they never lost touch.” Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, “A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies—not true. The relationships are usually friendships first.” In fact, more than 60% of affairs start at work, according to Focus on the Family. A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner. “Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night. That has to stop,” says Rapini. She suggests always going to bed at the same time and cuddling.

Fact #3: Men cheat to save their marriages.
“Men love their spouses, but they don’t know how to fix their relationship problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD. Men want it all and have the skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more disappear. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife—and their mistress—without confronting the real issues.

Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. “If he puts his ego to the side, he’ll feel like a piece of garbage,” says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women…Is Men. “After all, he’s betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its toll on every part of his psyche.” A cheater can feel as though he’s failed as a man.

Fact #5: Cheaters often get friskier with their wives when affairs begin.
Just because a husband’s touchy-feely doesn’t mean his marriage is on firm footing. “When a man starts cheating, he becomes hyperactive sexually,” says Rapini, explaining that his sex drive has been awakened, and his wife is still the one with whom he feels most comfortable sexually. If you notice a sudden change in your husband’s sex drive, it should raise a red flag. Be on the lookout for the switch to flip off again. “After the affair is solid, he may begin to pull away,” says Rapini.

Fact #6: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But “the reasons the sexes cheat are different,” says Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. “Online cheating—without any physical contact—is the most damaging type of infidelity,” says Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you’ve likely checked out of your marriage. But if it’s just sex, it’s less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake.

Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband’s cheating.
How could Tiger Woods’s ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger’s ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn’t bear to acknowledge it. “At one level, I knew, but my denial was so strong,” says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. “The pain, had I accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it slowly.” According to Dr. Brosh, the jilted celebrities were likely doing the same thing: choosing what they could live with for the sake of their kids or to avoid humiliation and the fallout.

Fact #8: A couple will never work it out when the husband is in the midst of an affair.
They could agree to work on things, but it won’t matter. If he’s still in the throes of a hot, new romance, nothing a woman does will drag him out of it. “He’s got such positivity happening, without all the drama that exists in the established relationship,” says Orlando. The marriage will likely fail, unless he decides on his own accord that life isn’t better with the other woman. So the key is prevention. Continue to be the woman he first fell for throughout your marriage. “Women often turn from a loving girlfriend into a nagging wife. Men aren’t attracted to that.” Dole out compliments and surprise him with sex—don’t just yell at him about that towel on the bathroom floor, suggests Dr. Mandel.

Fact #9: Affairs can often fix a marriage.
Is infidelity the kiss of death for a couple? Not always. Although a new relationship is exciting, “an affair can rekindle the marriage,” says Orlando. “Men realize who they want for the rest of their lives and that the new relationship isn’t as perfect as they thought.” But think hard before returning to a cheater. “Flings can highlight how little self-control someone has,” explains Orlando. Still, if it was truly a one-time slip, it’s possible to get back on track.

Fact #10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss the affair.
Sadly, he might love his wife and want to salvage the marriage, but he doesn’t totally forget about the affair. “He might miss the great things about the other woman—fun, zero responsibilities, sex, the rush or the chase—but oftentimes he misses how he feels about himself when he was with her, which is more damaging if he’s trying to return to his marriage,” says Orlando. Again, acting as you did when the relationship was new could help.

Fact #11: A cheater knows he’s hurting the woman he loves, tearing his family apart and sacrificing his honor.
A man may realize the negative impact on his wife, family and himself, but still continue an affair. How? “It’s all in the perception of the cheater,” says Orlando. “If he feels unwanted, undervalued and taken for granted, his personal needs of being wanted, valued and appreciated will win out.”

Fact #12: The wife’s not to blame if her husband cheats on her.
Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it’s not your fault, no matter what people say. “When a man cheats, he’s making a conscious choice to do it,” says Dr. Brosh. “The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is an expression, not a reality.” Orlando echoes this sentiment: “Men don’t cheat because of who she is; they cheat because of who they’re not,” he says. “The ‘fault’ is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties.”

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IGP makes changes in police service hierarchy

The acting Inspector General of Police (IGP) John Kudalor, has made some changes in the regional and national hierarchy of the service.

The changes have seen some police officers move from the national headquarters to the regions and in some cases districts, and vice versa.

This is the second time Mr. Kudalor is making changes to the service since he assumed office late last year.

A statement signed by the IGP indicated that the changes takes place with immediate effect.

Below are details of the changes


The following postings take immediate effect.

ACP/Nana Asomah Hinneh, 2i/c Upper West Region to 2i/c Volta Region.

ACP/Mr William Kofi Akpessey, 2i/c Volta Region to 2i/c Brong Ahafo Region.

ACP/Mr Enoch Adutwum Bediako, Fin/Provident Fund/Hqtrs to i/c Bibiani Div/WR.

ACP/Mr David Agyemang Adjem, FSL/CID Hqtrs to i/c Sekondi Division/WR.

ACP/Dr Sayibu Pabi Gariba, National Hqtrs/Accra to 2i/c Upper West Region.

ACP/Mrs Habiba Y. Akyere Twumasi Sarpong, National Hqtrs to Director/CPU.

C/Supt/Mr Amo Ayisi, Akropong Division/ER to Director/CD/National Hqtrs.

C/Supt/Dr Benjamin Kwasi Agordzo, NPD/Hqtrs to Director/Ops/Nat. Hqtrs.

C/Supt/Mr Christian Bortsi, Bolgatanga District/UER to Inspection Unit/Hqtrs.

C/Supt/Mr Emmanuel Teye Cudjoe, Director/CD/Hqrs to Projects/Nat. Hqtrs

C/Supt/Rev/Mrs Laurencia W. Akorli, Nat. Hqtrs to Director/DOVVSU/Hqtrs.

C/Supt/Mr Innocent Kweku Avevor, Enchi Div/WR to Finance/National Hqtrs.

C/Supt/Mr Samuel Amissah, Consumer/Hqtrs/Accra to i/c Konongo Div/Ash.

C/Supt/Mr Charles Kofi Adu, Regional Visibility/VR to i/c Akropong Division/ER.

C/Supt/Mr Isaac Asante, Kpone District/TR to i/c Enchi Division/WR.

Supt/Mr Cuthbert Aapengnuo, Crime/RHQ/TR to CID Headquarters/Accra.

Supt/Mr Wisdom Dinam Zioku, National Hqtrs to i/c Procurement/Nat. Hqtrs.

Supt/Mr Richard Appiah, National Hqtrs/Accra to i/c MTTU Sekondi/WR.

Supt/Mr William Daah, Crime/Ashaiman Div/TR to Crime/Nima Division/AR.

Supt/Mr Samuel Tibil Punobyin, i/c Kasoa District/CR to i/c Bolgatanga Dist/UER.

Supt/Mr Adu Kwadwo Baadu, Donkorkrom Dist/ER to i/c Adjei Kojo Dist/TR.

Supt/Mr William Kofi Sarpong, Procurement/National Hqtrs to RHQ/AR.

Supt/Mr Firmin A. Azitariga, Achimota District/AR to i/c Madina District/AR.

Supt/Mr Alexander A. Amenyah, HPU/Hqtrs to i/c Nungua District/AR.

Supt/Mr Ebenezer Boryor, Crime/Nima Div/AR to Crime/RHQ/TR.

Supt/Mr Francis Nchor, National Headquarters/Accra to i/c Nima District/AR.

Supt/Mr Reindorf Magnus Sam, Nsawam District/ER to Regional Visibility/VR.

Supt/Mr Eric Asiedu Asamoah, Staff Officer/Accra Region to Operations/Hqtrs.


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Wontumi warns celebrities not to campaign for Mahama

NPP Chair Wontumi

Bernard Antwi Boasiako a.k.a Chairman Wontumi


Ten [10] months to election 2016 and obviously some individuals within the entertainment industry will publicly throw their support behind some political parties.

This has been in existence for some time now with the likes of Hi-Life artistes, Kwabena Kwabena and Daddy Lumba composing danceable tracks for the NPP – Lucky Mensah has also been a regular composer for the NDC as well – as actors Mr. Beautiful and John Dumelo campaigning vigorously for the NDC in the last elections.

But the entertainers are likely to face a huge sabotage in the Ashanti Region if any attempt is made to campaign for President John Dramani Mahama in the upcoming polls.

They have been warned by the Ashanti Regional Chairman of the opposition NPP, Bernard Antwi-Boasiako also known as Chairman Wontumi to stay away from the NDC and President Mahama if they want good patronage of their products in the Ashanti region.

Wontumi vowed on NEAT FM’s morning show ‘Ghana Montie’ that he will personally lead a crusade to sabotage any entertainer who will campaign for President Mahama in the Ashanti region.

“Those [entertainers] who will go for bribe from the NDC and campaign for President Mahama, I together with my people will see to it that their products are abandoned in the Ashanti region. They should rather campaign for poverty and help the needy rather that the NDC and Mahama,” he told host Kwesi Aboagye.

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VIDEO: KKD Apologizes For Having Sex With 19-Yr-Old Lady

It appears ace Broadcaster Kwasi Kyei Darkwah (KKD) thinks the apology letter he released while he was in detention for an alleged rape case was not in enough to be forgiven.

The popular Ghanaian TV star rendered an unqualified apology to Ghanaians for what he called a “public ridicule and disgrace that ensued by reason of the fleeting pleasure of the flesh involving Ewureffe Orleans Thompson and myself” on January 13, 2015 in the heat in his alleged rape case.

In January 2016 KKD ‘The Finest’ has rendered yet another apology for the same alleged rape case.

“For those who are bothered, I will say I am sorry first and foremost to everybody who feels offended that a grown man has had a carnal relationship with a young woman who by law in our country is above the age to be lawfully married”.

The renowned Master of Ceremonies and fashion icon has apologized to all those who were offended by the fact that he had sex with a 19-year-old lady at a hotel.

Speaking on Cosmopolitan Mix on Joy FM with Doreen Andoh, the broadcaster noted that while there was nothing wrong with having sex with a young woman who is above the legal age for marriage, he was disappointed that people also tried to destroy her in the process.

KKD in the revealing interview, also spoke about how people who do not like him used opportunity to ‘kill’ him. “Now if I die how much money is it going to put in our pocket”, he asked.

The Airport Police arrested KKD on December 27, 2014 after Ewureffe Orleans Thompson accused him of raping her in a hotel washroom. Mr. Darkwah admitted having sex with the lady but insisted that it was consensual sex. In April last year, the state dropped charges of rape against KKD.

Watch the interview in the video below:



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This is just a short story of my life, my experiences, my mistakes and lesson learnt.

My name is Natasha and I have to say that I am a beautiful, intelligent and young christian lady. When I turned 30, the pressure to get married from my family and relatives was too much to handle. Did I mention that I’m the only daughter, so you can imagine what the pressure felt like. At church people started saying that I had a spiritual husband and that I needed deliverance. The pressure became more intense such that I became desperate for marriage. My pastor introduced me to a certain man of God at a church revival who proposed marriage to me and said that God had told him that I was his wife. To be honest I didn’t really love this man but I thought things would change and I would develop love for him. My pastor kept on encouraging me and I just said YES because of the pressure coming from family and also how people thought being single means that you have a spiritual husband. I informed my mother about this man and the marriage plans. she was really happy and set out to make enquirers about him and his family. She was happy because the man was also a pastor. I tried to explain my feelings to my mother but she brushed me off and said that I should relax and with time I will get to understand and love my husband.

We had our wedding and I became a married woman and hoped for a happily ever after life. My mother came to visit after my child birth and was speechless. She had to ask me if I was really happy and I told her not to bother. She wanted me to get married and I’m married.

In summary, after 2years of marriage with the verbal, emotional, psychological abuse. I am now divorced. I became a divorced, single mother at age 33 because I Married The Man Of Other People’s Dreams But Lived With The Man Of My Nightmares.

The lesson i have learnt is to Never ever give in to pressure from family, friends, society or wherever it may come from because at the end you are the one who has to live with the person and bears the consequence. Everyone blames me for what happened yet they are the ones who pushed me. I was a strong praise and worship leader but now I lost it too. I just want to tell every woman not to give in to the pressure from people about marriage. Also realise that even a man of God is still human and they can make errors so don’t think getting married to a pastor is an express ticket to a happy marriage.


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Guys who ask THESE 5 questions are always the BEST in Bed

Mind-blowing orgasms await you … if you’re willing to talk about it.

Sex doesn’t get talked about enough.

The word “communication” can be found in 99 percent of modern relationship advice/literature… but it’s rarely to do with our sex lives. It’s usually focused around dissolving conflict, going deeper in your relationship, or expressing jealousy. All of which are totally valid things to want to work on.

And some arguments can be best served with a passionate, emotionally present night of sexual play faster than they can be with words.

That being said… sex! How are we not talking about it with our partners more? Well, we are now.

Let’s do this.

Here are five questions to ask to increase the quality of your sex life. Some might be easier for you than others, but I promise that if you implement them, you’ll notice benefits from each and every question.

1. What have been some of your favorite sexual experiences (whether between us or with others)? What was it about those experiences that you loved so much?

You may have to set your triggered ego aside for this one because, spoiler alert, your partner likely had sexual experiences before they met you.

When you and your partner think back on the entirety of your individual sexual history, what moments or experiences stand out to you as the hottest/most erotic/most deeply satisfying?

This is a question that really deserves to be pondered. Give it a few days. Journal about it. Talk about it.

What have been the best sexual experiences of your life? What have been some of your partners? And then, once verbalized, are each of you willing to incorporate that experience or some version of it into your sex life?

Granted, some experiences you’ll want to keep in the past, but if there’s something that you and your partner (or one of your former partners) used to do that you really miss, you’re allowed to introduce it into your present day sex life.

2. What does your ideal sex life look like?

What does your ideal sex life look like? What kind of frequency would make you the happiest? What specific acts would you want to engage in on a weekly basis? What kind of emotional content do you want your lovemaking to have? Does your ideal sex life involve cuddling?Bondage? Morning quickies? Ample cuddling? Whatever you want, you’re allowed to want it.

Think about it, chat about it, and incorporate whatever you both find agreeable.

3. What do you love about our current sex life?

If you’re doing these questions in order with your partner (totally up to you) then the first two questions might have kicked up some interesting new ideas. This question is about reminding you both of what is already working for each of you.

What specifically do you already enjoy about the sexual play that you and your partner regularly engage in?

You might be surprised as to what answers bubble up to the surface for yourself and from your partner. The simplest thing that you love might be a total shock to them, and similarly, they might verbalize something that was totally off of your radar. These little surprises are what makes these exercises/questions so valuable. Even if you’ve been with your partner for years, you don’t know unless you ask.

4. Is there anything you would like to be doing more of together in our sex life?

Maybe you used to do something together frequently when you first started dating, but then it fell by the wayside. Maybe a certain position got lost in the shuffle because one of you secretly felt less confident while you were having sex in that position. Whatever the reasons are that sexual habits fall out of favour, it’s good to talk about them.

Is there anything in you and your partners sex life that either one of you wants to re-integrate into your sex life?

5. Is there anything new you have wanted to try, but weren’t sure if you were allowed to want it?

For countless unfortunate reasons, there’s so much shame tied to our relationship to our sexuality. Well meaning parents, peers, movies, media, and misguided early sexual educators give us a lot of faulty beliefs around what is considered “normal” in what we’re allowed to want when it comes to sex. So this is the shame melting round of the exercise.

What would you like to try, if you weren’t afraid to ask? What do you need the permission to ask for? What sexual acts do you feel like you don’t deserve?

If you’ve been following me for a while then you’ve likely heard of “spoiling sessions”. Spoiling sessions are a perfect example of an exercise in sexual receptivity that brings up a lot of anxiety for certain people. It’s not always easy to explicitly ask for what we want. But it is uber-valuable and super fun once we get to the place of being comfortable with it.

So what, in your sex life, would you ask for if you knew that your partner could potentially be open to it?

Want Better Sex? Just Ask

Communication is vitally important in any relationship. Sex is just as vital (however you define sex for yourself).

By intentionally setting aside time to talk with your significant other about the status of your sex life, you could save yourself years of pain, and add that much more joyous sexual play into your daily life. So the question isn’t “Will asking these questions be worth the potential awkwardness?”, but rather, “How can I afford not to have this conversation with my partner?”

Your new and improved sex life starts today.

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XCLUSIV AUDIO: Shatta Wale Goes ‘Mad’ On Peace FM

Reigning Ghanaian Dancehall artiste Charles Nii Armah Mensah Jnr. popularly known as Shatta Wale lost his cool live on radio during an interview over the weekend.

The “Kakai” hit maker was called to respond to the supposed reconciliation between him and Samini on Peace FM’s “Entertainment Review” show last Saturday January 23, 2016 but the interview didn’t go as expected.

After Kwasi Aboagye, host of the show had a cordial exchange of pleasantries with Shatta in the beginning of the interview, Shatta decided to use the rest of the time to address a personal issue he has with the host of the show instead of the main reason why he was called.

Listen to how it all happened.

Kwasi Aboagye believes some of the comments Shatta Wale made to him on radio are actual statements of threats, and has therefore made an official complaint at the National Police headquarters with copy of the interview.

Source: Eugene Osafo-Nkansah/