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What Counts As Cheating In a Relationship?

As a psychiatrist in the Brown University faculty, I’ve been researching men, women, marriage and relationships for more than a decade. In that time, I’ve come to discover that one of the greatest challenges to a committed relationship is when one partner goes outside the marriage to look for a connection, either physical and emotional.

When people find out about infidelity, they often make all kinds of assumptions about how and why people have affairs. We live in a hush-hush culture — when it comes to infidelity, there’s a lot of BS out there — and most of what you think is true just isn’t. Here are the nine most common misconceptions about infidelity, and the real take on what you need to know.

1. Once An Affair Is Out In The Open, A Couple Can Never Be Happy Again


Affairs happen, and people do recover — you hardly ever hear success stories because no one’s talking. Couples can learn to successfully rebuild their relationships, and many of my patients say their bonds are even stronger once they’ve worked things through.

Distinguishing infidelity fact from fiction can help you and your partner gain a better understanding of how an affair happens, what to expect if one does and what you can do to prevent infidelity. Truth is a powerful tool that can help you recover.


2. Infidelity Is Never About Sex; It’s About Other Marital Issues


Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and sometimes extramarital “sex” is just about sex. For sure, some affairs are just about unmet emotional needs, but for some people — not the majority — an affair is just about going out and getting laid.

3. You Can’t Call It Cheating If Sex Wasn’t Involved


Many affairs happen without any sex at all. Is staying up half the night secretly texting an old classmate about your most intimate thoughts being unfaithful? The person doing it may not see it as cheating, but you can bet your partner sees it this way. When you give an emotional part of yourself to someone with whom you could potentially cheat one day, it’s cheating.

4. Affairs Are All About Sexual Attraction


Sure, yeah, some affairs are only about the sex, but lots of the time, affairs happen because of an emotional connection. Sometimes, hanging out together and sharing feelings is as far as the affair ever goes, although it’s true that the sense of emotional closeness often leads to sex.

5. Affairs Happen Because Of Problems In The Marriage


Here’s the truth: almost every marriage has problems. Affairs don’t happen because something’s wrong with the marriage; they happen, in part, because couples don’t know how to work together to solve the issues they have. Having problems in your relationship doesn’t justify cheating.

6. Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater


Yes, there are some real scumbags out there, but not everyone who cheats is evil incarnate. Many affairs are a one-and-done thing. What happens after the affair can set a marriage on a course for stability, or blow it out of the water. After ending the affair, for healing to take place, the cheater has to tell the whole truth about the affair. Knowing the truth is the first step toward healing.

7. After An Affair, Kiss Your Marriage Goodbye


Not so quick! Over half of marriages survive infidelity. Although the relationship may break up from other issues in the future, when couples are willing to work together, they’re surprised to find they can rebuild the trust. The most common reasons for marriage dissolution, at 53 to 55%, is “growing apart” and not being able to talk to each other.


8. Affairs Happen With People Much Younger Or More Attractive


OK, sometimes the 60-something corporate CEO might seek out younger playmates, but, typically, paramours are no younger, richer or more attractive than spouses — they’re just someone new.


9. Affairs Happen Because Guys Are On The Prowl


No — most of time, an affair happens to people who aren’t looking for it. This is particularly true in cases in which a partner has only cheated with one person. Affairs often begin as feeling really comfortable with someone, like the person in the cubicle next to you at work. That coziness is followed by sharing intimate secrets, which can then shift into an emotional connection that’s consummated with a full-blown tryst.


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Kofi Adjorlolo’s Fiancee Can Go To Hell – Maurice Ampaw (Video)

Private legal practitioner, Maurice Ampaw has intimated that a suit by Kofi Adjorlolo’s fiancée against Counselor Lutterodt over comments on their relationship will be one of the most useless legal actions.

Victoria is threatening to sue Counselor Lutterodt if he does not retract the unpleasant words he used on her.

Lutterodt in a video said Kofi Adjorlolo is old enough to be Victoria’s father and deems her decision to stay with him as a means to kill one of Ghana’s best actors before his time.

“If she marries Kofi Adjorlolo, she would see what I would do to her because she is a small girl. She is just about 27-years-old so she should take her time.”


Victoria has given the controversial counselor a five-day ultimatum to retract or be sued.

But Maurice Ampaw tells Ghanaweb the suit is useless.

video below-

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NDC Officials Are Stealers; They Should Return The TV Sets And Cars – Napaga Tia Sulemana

A Presidential staffer, Napaga Tia Sulemana has described officials of the former National Democratic Congress (NDC) as stealers.

Napaga Tia Sulemana is alleging that, some former officials of the previous administration, have stolen television sets, computers, DSTV Machines and cars at the presidency and has charged them to return them.

Already there is a brouhaha over some ‘missing 200 vehicles’ as alleged by the Head of Communications at the Presidency, Eugene Arhin.

He said the situation has compelled the President to resort to the use of “his own Land Cruiser.”

“So vehicles right from 2007 when these Ghana at 50 vehicles were bought right down to now, if you go to the presidential pool, you cannot find any of them and it is not as if those are the only ones. There are lots of other vehicles,” he said. He made the allegation after a task force was set by the ruling government to recover ‘’stolen assets’’ from some officials of the previous NDC government.

The task force is composed of the Ghana Police Service, the Ghana Revenue Authority (Customs Division) the Bureau of National Investigations (BNI), the Driver and Vehicle Licensing Authority (DVLA), and persons from the office of the President.

Eugene Arhin addressing the media on Wednesday said: “What we came to meet was something that surprised all of us. For example, you take a look at the Toyota Landcruiser vehicles, we were supposed to have 196 Toyota Landcruiser vehicles at the Presidency, we only came to meet 74. That means you have a total of 122 which we still cannot find.

“For the Toyota Landcruiser Prados, the total is 73. But we only came to meet 20, so you have a 43 difference. “You look at something like the Mercedes-Benz; there were 24 in total, but we came to meet 11. Toyota Avalons; there were 28, but we came to meet two and for the BMWs, there were six and we came to meet only two.’’

Napaga Sulemana Tia adding to the allegation, took to her Facebook wall and wrote: ‘’Bring back the TV sets, Computers, DSTV Machines and the cars.


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Minister Designate Begs Mahama For Forgiveness

Ministers-designate for the President’s Special Development Initiatives, Mavis Hawa Koomson, has extended a hand of friendship to H. E. John Dramani Mahama, begging the former President to let it go of her sins against him.

The Awutu Senya East MP is on record to have insulted Mr Mahama during the 2016 electioneering campaign, likening him to a mad man in an interview she granted to Pink FM, a local radio station during the sod cutting ceremony of the Kasoa Western by-pass road network.


She is also reported by that Mr. Mahama was competing “with the devil for the crown emperor of lies and deceit” and the former Ghanaian leader was a serial liar.

However, on Tuesday when Hon. Hawa Koomson was being vetted by the Appointments Committee she told Members that she regrets using those unprintable words against the former President.


“Yes, I do regret using those words because it a political talk and I am sorry for that,” she humbly pleaded.

She added “I retract and apologize for using those words.”

She further told the Committee that when offered another opportunity she will not repeat those unprintable words again.


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Low Deaths Affected Our Sales In 2016 – Coffin Sellers

Coffin sellers in Accra have revealed that low-mortality affected their businesses in 2016. In an interview conducted by Ghana News Agency (GNA), to find out how some businesses fared in 2016.


The sellers expressed their views on their sales for the year with one of them blaming it on low deaths. Mr Agyekum Darkwah Junior, a coffin seller at the Korle-Bu hospital, said: ‘Much as we are not praying for people to die, I must also confess that our livelihood is derived from the number of coffins we sell in the year.

CoffinShopWarsaw.jpgThe market was not good last year as the nation recorded low deaths compared to previous years. My only prayer is to get more buyers for my beautifully crafted caskets so as to make my investments fruitful this year. I have employed more than eight carpenters so if the market goes low, I would not be able to remunerate them.’ he said. Stephen Kwame Addai, a coffin shop owner at Kaneshie, however, dismissed the notion that the business was quite ‘diabolic one’ as it thrived on more deaths.


‘We do not cause the death of our fellow human beings. Death, whether by vehicular accidents or sickness is natural.’
Emmanuel Abankwaa who works on coffins at Dansoman meanwhile said, the business was a legitimate source of income, as such, a growth in it was very necessary.
‘We are not saying people should die but if they die, we cannot give them life but can only help to facilitate their burial,’ he said. While Akorli Samuel who deals in coffin production at Lapaz said that the business is ‘Truly Profitable’.

‘People do not usually buy coffins and keep them ahead of burials. To some people, coffins are scary. Parents should not discourage their children from entering the venture. It is truly a profitable one’.

Source: GNA

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Journalist Arrested For ‘Trading’ Nude Pictures For S3x (PHOTO)

A Cape Coast-based journalist who has gained notoriety for collecting nude pictures of women and blackmailing them has been arrested by the police.

Emmanuel Orlando Matrevi’s stock-in-trade is threatening to publish nude pictures of ladies if they allegedly refuse him sex.

The 37-year old man works for Coastal TV in Cape Coast. The Central Regional Crime Officer, Chief Superintendent Baffour Appenteng told Onua FM that the suspect has been pretending to be someone domiciling in abroad, which he used to lure the girls through social media. After striking intimate relationship with the ladies, Emmanuel would then request for nude.

He then arranges to meet the girls at a location, after telling them he is in town. Emmanuel now reveals his real identity and allegedly asks for sex from them or else will make the nude pictures public: some of the ladies gave in to his demand. After series of sexual encounter with one of his victims, Chief Supt. Appentent said, the lady got fed up and reported his modus operandi to the police. The accused was arrested and granted bail about a week ago, but days later another girl reported his nefarious activity to the police and was re-arrested. Emmanuel’s iPad with the nude pictures is in the possession of the police but he has denied circulating any of the pictures. He would be arraigned soon, the police said.



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Seven (7) Ghanaian Presidents And The Nicknames Given To Them…

Some of these presidents earned their nicknames based on what they did, out of their own utterances or sometimes out of fun.

Here are 7 of such cases.


1. Kwame Nkrumah – Showboy

Kwame Nkrumah during his tenure earned the nickname Nkrumah Showboy due to his numerous positive developments.


2. J.J. Rawlings – Mr. Boom

J.J. Rawlings in one of his presidential addresses made this one statement and it became his nickname.


3. John Agyekum Kuffour – Gentle Giant

During his campaign and presidency, he was professed as the gentle giant by most of his party members and this became his nickname.

4. John Evans Attah Mills – Asomdweehene

Same with Attah Mills, he was referred to as the asomdweehene(King of Peace) because he always preached about peace in all his speeches.


5. John Dramani Mahama – The Commissioner General

During the later part of the 2016 Presidential campaign, President Mahama was virtually commissioning a new project every other week, hence commissioner general.


6. Ignatius Kutu Acheampong – Fa Wo To Be gye golf

General Kutu allegedly lured women for sex with Golf cars.


7. Nana Addo Dankwah Akufo-Addo – Nana Kalyppo

The president-elect has not even been sworn in yet but he has already been nicknamed, Nana Kalyppo, all because of a picture of him drinking the popular fruit drink that went viral and even sparked an internet challenge.