Times are really hard; reduce bride price to enable men of today to also marry.

A marriage counsellor and relationship expert, Dr John Boakye, has advised families of would-be brides to reduce the bride price and list of items requested from grooms during marriages. He explained that times were hard and cost of items such as wax prints, drinks, slippers, livestock, rings and other items had skyrocketed, hence families with young people planning to marry must be considerate.

He said the dowry, which was cash presented by the groom, must be adjusted so as not to deter young men from getting married. He explained that in the Akan setting, for instance, those items requested were of cultural significance and should not be a means of enriching one’s family.

The would-be couples, he added, must be advised to rather hold on to their savings for future emergencies after marriage and both families must cater for some of the costs during the ceremony. Dr Boakye also advised that would-be couples should stay within their means when planning their weddings. He said there had been instances where couples had been saddled with debts months after their weddings because they “bit more than they could chew”.

“Luxury weddings or destination weddings are beautiful and if you can afford them, great, but don’t try to impress people when you don’t have the means. The success of a marriage does not depend on how huge the wedding is, but on the commitment of two people to make it work,” he said.

A sample of the Ghanaian engagement list.

1. The dowry/ bride price.
2. Head drinks, usually a Gin, whiskey, palm wine or wine.
3. A minimum of 6 pieces of traditional wax print and exotic jewellery for the bride.
4. A suitcase packed with more clothes, shoes, and other female items the lady requests.
5. Money, Ankara male clothes, and a bottle of whiskey for the bride’s father.
6. Money, African print clothes, and a pair of sandals for the lady’s mother.
7. Money for the bride to invest in a business.
8. An engagement ring.
9. An engagement Bible.
10. Akontasekan (money) for the bride’s brothers or male cousins if she is the only daughter.
11. Cooking utensils for the bride to use in her new home.
12. Enough food and drinks for the wedding guests.

In Ghana today a man can sue you if you take his MoMo and fail to visit him– Maurice Ampaw advises women of our time.

If you’re a lady and a guy sends you MoMo for transportation and you refuse to visit him, he can sue you for deceit,” private legal practitioner, Maurice Ampaw, has said. The lawyer says partners in a relationship who fail to honour promises made to the other have flouted the laws and can face justice.

Speaking on Onua TV’s Evening News Tuesday, January 24, 2023, the vociferous lawyer said men who promise marriage to ladies and fail to fulfil them are also guilty before the law.

“If you’re in a relationship and you think you’ve been fooled, you can seek legal redress. In fact, there is something called a breach of promise to marry; if someone promises to marry you (both male and female) and fails if you have evidence, you can take the person to court. I’m glad the lady didn’t send the issue to a radio station to make it a public commentary or media trial. Taking it to court will help us to learn a lot of things,” he enlightened.

The lawyer has also advised ladies to stop spending money on men they know they won’t marry since that makes them liable for prosecution. Mr Ampaw’s comment comes on the back of a former National Service Personnel with the First Atlantic Bank who has sued a top manager she dated for failing to honour some promises he made to her.

Mr Nimako, who is a Director of Finance was sued by Deborah Seyram Adablah and he is expected to appear before the court Friday, January 27, 2023. The First Atlantic Bank has also been joined to the suit.

According to the writ of summons the plaintiff, whose national service period came to an end in July 2021, admits to being in a relationship with the married Ernest Kwasi Nimako following the fact that her happiness at the workplace was under threat had she failed to give in to the relationship.

She further states that she had turned down an opportunity to be a permanent staff after her National Service due to the manager’s promise of making life comfortable for her by paying her rent, giving her capital for business, getting her a new car and even divorcing his substantive wife for her among others.

It was captured in the writ, however, that the manager did well to deliver some part of his obligations until their relationship got complicated. She is now demanding that the rest of the promises be fulfilled including the payment of a remaining two-year rent as well as changing ownership of the car he bought for her as part of the promises.

The First Atlantic Bank, which was joined in the suit, has been accused of allowing senior officers to enter into relationships with unwilling subordinates while using the females as baits to win customers for the company.

By Felix Anim-Appau|Onuaonline.com

JUST IN: NSS Side Chics Sues First Atlantic Bank Top Manager Over Failure To Fulfill Relationship ‘Obligations’

A former National Service personnel of First Atlantic Bank in Accra has filed a suit against one of the bank’s manager, Ernest Kwasi Nimako, after the latter allegedly failed to uphold commitments made in their supposed intimate relationship.

A Director of Finance, Mr Kwasi Nimako, was sued by Deborah Seyram Adablah and he is expected to appear before Friday, January 27.

She further states that she had turned down an opportunity to be a permanent staff after her National Service due to the manager’s promise of making life comfortable for her by paying her rent, capital for business, getting her a new car and even divorcing his substantive wife for her among others.

It was captured in the writ, however, that the manager did well to deliver some part of his obligations until their relationship got complicated.

She is now demanding that the rest of the promises be fulfilled including the payment of a remaining two-year rent as well as changing ownership of the car he bought for her as part of the promises.

The First Atlantic Bank, which was joined in the suit, has been accused of allowing senior officers to enter into relationships with unwilling subordinates while using the females as baits to win customers for the company.

Meanwhile, management of the Bank is in a crunch meeting over the issue.

The lady is suing the man for failed promises.

Plaintiff with all the assurances from the 1st defendant to exit the bank and not take up contracts and in return for that 1st defendants made representations and assurances to the plaintiff to the effect that he will give the plaintiff the following.

1. Lump sum working capital to start business
2. Pay for her accommodation/rent 3 for years
3. Buy her a car
4. Pay her GHc3,000.00 a month.
5. Buy the plaintiff a ring
6. Pay her medical and other bills including paying for her to undergo a family planning treatment so that she will not give birth in the short term.
7. To marry plaintiff after divorcing his wife in the course of their parlor relationship since 1st defendant’s relationship with his wife was challenged, with irreconcilable differences, and the marriage had broken down beyond repairs and or reconciliation.
8. Generally, to take care of the plaintiff.
9.  Transfer the title of the car into her name.
10. Cost of repairs of 10,000gh.
11. Pays remaining 2 years’ rent.
12. Pays the outstanding arrears of her monthly allowance from July 2022 to the date of judgment and pays all medical. expenses as a result of side effects.
13. General damages against her. Any other relief(s) the court deems necessary including legal costs.

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12 Things Only A Straightforward Person Would Understand

Sometimes people misjudge a straightforward person as impolite or impatient. But really keeping it simple and honest is actually a great thing! If you are straightforward or know someone who is and feel like you or your friend are often misunderstood by others, this post is for you.

1. They think that coddling is bad for your health.

Straightforward people love people but they don’t love them too much. To love ’em more, you’ve got to love ’em less. It’s one thing to shower people with love but at a certain point it’s damaging. People can be so loved that they’re ruined. This isn’t healthy for you or anyone. Straightforward people get it. They want to empower people and teach non-dependence. They’ll toughen you up in the best hard love way.

2. They create a better world by telling the truth.

They speak honestly. If a sensitive person is offended by the truth it’s not because it was offensive. It’s because the truth sucks to hear. Not just for sensitive people, but for everyone. It’s how we process information that separates people who get better and those that stay complacent. Use difficult information to figure things out and get better.

3. They are honest not in a mean but in a funny way.

They are so honest, it’s refreshing and actually humorous. To call out the white elephant in the room is awesome. Otherwise it’s awk. Ward. Some people like to beat around the bush, but why not get to freedom sooner than later? Communication is awesome!

4. They strike while the iron is hot.

They are blunt and speak of things in the heat of the moment. The only time when it matters to say something at all! Sometimes it’s because it’s fueled by sheer passion and excitement. And sometimes this can be too much for people to handle but the best way to get a point across is at that moment that it matters, not when everyone has gone home and the moment is gone.

5. They understand that communication is the answer to unanswered questions.

They cut to the chase. The faster you get to your point, the better. Ask questions, if you want answers. No need for speculation and wonder. Straightforward people don’t walk around with a bunch of baggage and unfinished business.

6. They acknowledge that life is short.

They live in the now, not the past or the future. They don’t spend time day dreaming about “what if’s.” They don’t like small talk or day dreaming. They’re after progress and they know moving forward requires understanding current realities.

7. They see that anything is possible.

They shoot it straight. They make things happen. They know that there are no roadblocks, only detours. When you are alive and aware … asking questions, communicating .. you are likely to move along further than others that get stumped too quickly.

8. They also see that everything is negotiable.

They don’t function in a box. They are not constrained by lines. They operate their life outside of the box. They do this for survival, not just for the sake of being different. They color outside of the lines because they know that even dire mistakes can have triumphant endings. It takes a mighty strong person to see what needs to be done or said and to do it no matter what the consequence.

9. They would never live in denial.

Straightforward people wear their heart on their sleeve and hope you would too. They don’t believe in secrets, they don’t like hoarding information. They speak what they know. This makes life so much easier.

10. They have a thick skin which is earned.

They embrace honesty. They’re tough and resilient. They don’t take things personally. They’ve let themselves become comfortable with rejection so that it doesn’t hurt, it helps.

11. They know that hard love is real love.

They tell people what they don’t want to hear. They aren’t afraid to hurt people’s feelings to help them if it’s for their own good. They are like coaches pushing you when you are stuck.

12. They also get that some people don’t respond to barking.

They get that there is a certain finesse, getting people to the truth. They have to learn how to translate this to certain personalities in different ways. At the end of the day, the truth is hard to handle and delivering the truth is an art.